28 Nov Day 12 Gratitude for Hair Metal and the Power of Music
It’s been pretty crazy around here for the past few weeks. Both Ryan and I have been very busy with work and the usual demands of having kids. The outcome has been very little time together for just the two of us so I got a sitter and scheduled an impromptu date night on Wednesday, the night before Thanksgiving. We were joking on our way out that it was going to end up like an early “Festivus” celebration (mainly the airing of grievances.) You see at least for us, when we don’t spend enough time alone together we both start to get really irritated with each other over the little things. For example I start to resent Ryan’s laundry. In my mind he leaves his clothes lying around just to spite me. I get angry at dishes left in the sink and feel like it his passive aggressive way of telling me I am his cleaning lady. He starts to feel like I forget to send the Netflix back to intentionally sabotage his personal happiness. There is just this weird tension that builds up.
So off we go to Vin 55 for a quick bite. I realized it may not be a smart move to go out the night before I’m hosting Thanksgiving dinner. I could have been making the pies and getting other things done off my to do list, but instead we went out and boy did we hit the jackpot. It turned out Silicone Sister was playing an acoustic show that night at Vin 55. Score! For those of you who have not had the pleasure of seeing a Silicone show they are a local 80’s hair metal cover band and they are awesome. Down went the glass of wine and the next thing I know I am singing my heart out to “Eighteen and Life to Go” by Skid Row and just like that JOY! I instantly forgot about my list of grievances. The stress of trying to work with the girls on a vacation all week and rainy weather everyday – gone! I mean who can be upset about anything when they are singing “Patience” by Guns and Roses?!? Honestly.
I LOVE music. It is like oxygen to me. When I need an instant state change music is my vehicle. I went from a tired, overwhelmed grumpy mom to feeling like I was 16 and care free during that 15 minute set. What gift! And it was fun! It put me in a great mood to enjoy Thanksgiving. If we hadn’t gone out and had fun, if I had stayed home to make pies then I would have been an overwhelmed, grumpy and resentful mom cooking for 10 hours yesterday while my family sat around and enjoyed themselves. Instead, my tank was full so I enjoyed it. Getting out of the house and singing along full volume to my favorite hair metal hits was just the break I needed to recharge. I forgot about everything for a couple of hours and when I returned to my life and responsibilities I felt much more capable of not only handling them, but enjoying them. This was one of the best Thanksgivings we have ever had.
Maybe hair metal isn’t your thing and that’s okay, but music is an instant portal to joy. What kind do you like? How can you incorporate more music into your life? I still have an ipod (so old school) and I listen to it all the time when I’m doing house and yard work. Listening to great music takes the drudgery out of menial tasks. As far as I’m concerned ITunes is one of the best inventions of the modern world. You get to discover all kinds of amazing music without leaving your chair.
So as you are cleaning up the mess from yesterday’s feast or spending the day untangling Christmas lights, put on some music and feel the joy. You won’t be sorry. And hey, hair metal is a great place to start. 🙂